Archive for February, 2010

Second Blog

A friend recently suggested that I try and blog about my passion for Apple computers and their media devices. After thinking for a bit, not long actually, I realized that I had a few things to say about the topic. So…I’m trying it out for a while. I don’t know how long it will last, but we’ll see. Feel free to check it out over at brentsbits.wordpress.com and feel free to add questions or leave comments in the comment section. Enjoy!

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The value of a good question (or two)

This afternoon I was at a local coffee shop doing some reading and couldn’t help but overhear the conversation at the table next to me. A young (college-aged) guy and gal were sitting at a small table trying to enjoy what seemed like an afternoon coffee date. At first I though, “Oh that’s nice.”  But after listening (unintentionally, of course) I started to really feel for the girl. The guy was talking endlessly about himself and the stuff he did or liked.

Anyone? Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?

But as the conversation progressed, I realized that she was doing the same thing. There was very little actual conversation going on. It was mostly a series of statements by one person followed by somewhat related statements by the other person. It was really painful to listen to. A part of me can’t imagine that there will be a second date for those two, but if most of their interactions are like that, I suppose there probably will be.

I kept thinking as I listened that if just one of them would ask the other a question it would change everything. They might begin to learn something about each other. They might actually connect on a deeper level than just what kind of computers they used and how much they saw people drink before the basketball game last weekend. They might even learn enough to know whether or not they wanted to have another date.

It made me wonder if they even knew how to be curious about another person. I know that I’m not always the most curious person about others and I have to work at it at times, but I also know how rewarding it is when I do. It also reminded me why J and I want to do the kind of work that we have been trained for. We want others to learn how to connect deeply with one another and God. And, if nothing else, have more enjoyable dates.

A taste of heaven

Good food, better friends, Halo, catching up with a friend, coffee, guitar gear, more catching up with good friends, college basketball, more good food, connecting with good friends and sunshine. These were the things that filled the past weekend for me, and they were wonderful. So wonderful that at one point I feared the sky would come crashing down to compensate for all the goodness.

A life-friend was in town this weekend to celebrate his 40th birthday and a group of us had dinner together followed by a couple hours of four-person Halo. Yes, a bunch of 40-year-olds were playing Halo (not very well, I should add) until 11:00pm on a Friday night. It felt like I was 30 again. Endless thanks to my wonderful wife and my friends’ wives for making it happen.

Grenade launcher 🙂

Saturday morning I spent time with a really good buddy and our daughters, drinking coffee, talking about life and God and generally catching up. He lives in town but we hadn’t really seen each other for four weeks, which was entirely too long. We are both in similar stages of life (despite a 12-year age difference), work transition, lack of community and a desire to serve God by serving others. The time together was refreshing for the soul.

Later that afternoon, J and I caught up with my birthday friend and his family and again, it was a life-giving time. We have both learned some lessons about loneliness in ministry in the past year and it was comforting to know that we weren’t alone in those lessons. It would take very little to convince me to work with him again if the opportunity presented itself.

Saturday night, I watched my alma mater win a very tight overtime game against their in-state rival. Despite the nervous stomach I had most of the game, it was great to watch. Knowing that they can handle close situations like that means that National Championship hopes are still alive.

Sunday after church J, C and I had lunch with the same friend and his family at one of our favorite restaurants. C was a little grumpy and I’m not sure J ate all that much, but I was still very encouraged. We haven’t been out to eat much with C (at least not the sit-down kind) lately as she has gotten more active, so it was nice to be able to do that again – even if it took a little work.

To top it off, the sun was shining most of the weekend. The older I get, the more convinced I am that I suffer from a mild form of Seasonal Affective Disorder and it has been gray way too much lately. The sunshine and resultant vitamin D in my system was a welcome reprieve and reminded me that spring will come eventually.

Times like this past weekend are times that I really want to remember better than I do. I am convinced that God gives us tastes of eternity more often than we are aware of and that we do a pretty terrible job of remembering them in the midst of our daily struggles. My prayer is that I would remember these expressions of His kindness and blessing to me and my family for more than just a day or two and that I would be moved to continue to offer myself as a blessing to others. Thanks, Lord.